{"id":8779,"date":"2014-04-18T23:31:23","date_gmt":"2014-04-18T23:31:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/?p=8779"},"modified":"2025-02-21T23:20:32","modified_gmt":"2025-02-21T23:20:32","slug":"virgjeresha-e-perbetuar-e-malajve-te-rugoves-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/en\/virgjeresha-e-perbetuar-e-malajve-te-rugoves-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Virgj\u00ebresha e p\u00ebrbetuar e Malajve t\u00eb Rugov\u00ebs"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure id=\"attachment_8782\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-8782\" style=\"width: 300px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-8782 size-medium\" src=\"https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Mire-mete-Lajci-300x231.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"231\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Mire-mete-Lajci-300x231.jpg 300w, https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Mire-mete-Lajci-768x591.jpg 768w, https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/01\/Mire-mete-Lajci.jpg 975w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-8782\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Foto Ben<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p><b>18 prill 2014,Radio Kosova.<\/b> Ne fshatin Malaj n\u00eb zem\u00ebr t\u00eb Rugov\u00ebs, nga prind\u00ebrit Vake dhe Met\u00eb Laj\u00e7i para 73 vjet\u00ebsh u lind nj\u00eb vajze e cila me 6 vjetet e saj hoqi dor\u00eb nga gjinia e lindur, duke p\u00ebrforcuar p\u00ebrcaktimin e saj q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb re me betimin e nj\u00eb \u201dvirgj\u00ebreshe t\u00eb p\u00ebrbetuar\u201d e cila do t\u00eb heq dor\u00eb nga feminiteti i saj p\u00ebrgjithmon\u00eb.<!--more-->\u00cbsht\u00eb kjo Mire Met\u00eb Laj\u00e7i, nd\u00ebr burrneshat e rralla n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb, \u00a0e cila gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn i q\u00ebndroi besnike \u00a0thirrjes s\u00eb shpirtit p\u00ebr t&#8217;u b\u00ebr\u00eb fli e familj\u00ebs me transformimin n\u00eb mashkull sht\u00ebpie. Sepse dashuria ndaj prind\u00ebrve dhe d\u00ebshira p\u00ebr t&#8217;iu ndihmuar ishte m\u00eb e madhe se \u00ebndrrat vash\u00ebrore p\u00ebr nus\u00ebri e am\u00ebri. \u00a0Ajo nuk pyeti sa i lart\u00eb do t\u00eb ishte \u00e7mimi? Ajo vendosi nj\u00eb her\u00eb e p\u00ebr gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn dhe nuk u kthye pas kurr\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p><i>\u201cVendosa qysh e re se, mixha plak pa djal\u00eb, pa \u00e7ik\u00eb. Baba vet\u00ebm e v\u00ebllez\u00ebrit e vegj\u00ebl. Vendosa, nuk u ktheva pas ma dhe nuk u pendova kurr\u00eb. Gjith\u00eb dit\u00ebn k\u00ebndoja, se at\u00ebher\u00eb s\\&#8217;ka pas me vajtu pun\u00ebt pas, here po e here jo. \u00a0Askush s\\&#8217; ka guxu me ma p\u00ebrmend martes\u00ebn as pasha Zotin kurr\u00eb s\\&#8217;kam lakmu ndonj\u00eb fem\u00ebr. Si njeriu q\u00eb vdes edhe nuk ngjallet ma aq m\u00eb asht kthye mua mendja\\&#8221;,<\/i> thot\u00eb kjo virgj\u00ebresh\u00eb e p\u00ebrbetuar e cila feminitetin e saj ndrydhi n\u00ebn pantallonat, xhaket\u00ebn e shallin e err\u00ebt duke u shnd\u00ebrruar ne nj\u00eb burr\u00eb me em\u00ebr ,gjeste, q\u00ebndrim, fjal\u00eb e vep\u00ebr.<\/p>\n<p>Nd\u00ebrsa, puna me bujq e blegtor\u00eb do t\u00eb mbetet rruga e vetme e k\u00ebsaj burrneshe rugovase t\u00eb njohur n\u00eb opinion si \\&#8221;Bariu Kajtaz\\&#8221;, s\u00eb cil\u00ebs toka e gjer\u00eb dhe numri i bag\u00ebtive ndikuan n\u00eb vendimin e saj jetik p\u00ebr t\\&#8217; u b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb krah\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb n\u00eb familje.<i>\\&#8221;Dikur jetonim me v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi, me bjeshk\u00eb e dyerve t\u00eb hallkut me bag\u00ebti. K\u00ebshtu m\\&#8217;ka shku jeta&#8230;Kam ruajt bag\u00ebti, kam mjel, kam qeth, kam mbjell are, kam lavru, kam kosit, kam prashit. Gjith\u00eb \u00e7ka ban nj\u00eb mashkull i mir\u00eb e nj\u00eb pun\u00ebtor i fort\u00eb un\u00eb i kam ba. Kam punu, kam hjek keq p\u00ebr hat\u00ebr t\u00eb bab\u00ebs e t\u00eb v\u00ebllez\u00ebrve dhe nuk jam pishman!\\&#8221;, <\/i>shton kjo burrnesh\u00eb fjala e s\u00eb cil\u00ebs dikur peshonte sa e nj\u00eb mashkulli t\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, n\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb edhe ishte transformuar.<\/p>\n<p><b>\u201cBurrneshat\u201dme te forta se vet burrat<\/b><\/p>\n<p>\u201cVirgj\u00ebresha t\u00eb p\u00ebrbetuara\u201d apo &#8220;Burrnesha&#8221; njihen grate q\u00eb heqin dor\u00eb gjinia e tyre dhe identiteti duke nderruar emrin dhe veshur si meshkuj, p\u00ebr t\u00eb vazhduar jet\u00ebn si t\u00eb tilla deri ne vdekje. Fenomeni \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i shprehur n\u00eb per\u00ebndim t\u00eb Kosov\u00ebs dhe n\u00eb veri t\u00eb Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb, ku p\u00ebr shkak te rrethanave n\u00eb familjet q\u00eb kan\u00eb mbetur pa trash\u00ebgimtar, zakonisht femra e par\u00eb ose e fundit jan\u00eb detyruar ta nd\u00ebrmarrin nj\u00eb hap t\u00eb till\u00eb. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb k\u00ebputje e nj\u00eb fije natyrale n\u00eb em\u00ebr t\u00eb nj\u00eb betimi, thot\u00eb p\u00ebr Radio Kosov\u00ebn Xhavit Fazliu, sociolog, i cili p\u00ebr punimin e diplom\u00ebs e zgjodhi ket\u00eb fenomen.<\/p>\n<p><i>&#8220;Madje edhe em\u00ebrimi &#8220;burrnesh\u00eb\\&#8221; \u00ebsht\u00eb i padenje se ato jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb forta se vet burrat, te cil\u00ebt nuk do ta b\u00ebnin me asnj\u00eb kusht nj\u00eb flijim t\u00eb till\u00eb. Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb akti me \u00a0lart\u00eb i nj\u00eb flijimi q\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr n\u00eb em\u00ebr t\u00eb dashuris\u00eb p\u00ebr familjen, ndaj \u00ebsht\u00eb i pakrahasuesh\u00ebm me ndonj\u00eb fenomen tjet\u00ebr&#8221;,<\/i> mendon Fazliu, sipas t\u00eb cilit fenomeni i &#8220;Burrneshave Shqiptare&#8221; nuk ka t\u00eb bej\u00eb me transvestitet apo homoseksualizmin e aq m\u00eb pak mund t\u00eb krahasohen me murgeshat t\u00eb cilat edhe po hoq\u00ebn dor\u00eb nga urdhri, \u00a0ripranohen n\u00eb familje dhe n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri pa ndonj\u00eb buj\u00eb t\u00eb madhe p\u00ebr dallim nga Burrneshat. \u00a0Sepse, ato kan\u00eb heq dor\u00eb me betim nga t\u00eb qenit fem\u00ebr, duke menduar n\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt e m\u00eb s\u00eb paku ne vete, si\u00e7 b\u00ebri edhe Mire Met\u00eb Laj\u00e7i, virgj\u00ebresha e p\u00ebrbetuar e Malajve t\u00eb Rugov\u00ebs.<\/p>\n<p><b>Gjithe jeten ne sherbim te te tjereve<\/b><\/p>\n<p><i>&#8220;Un\u00eb nuk kam menduar n\u00eb jet\u00ebn time, se kam d\u00ebgjuar veten e as m\\&#8217;ka ba p\u00ebrshtypje \u00e7ka m\\&#8217;del pas. Mendoja vet\u00ebm si t\u00eb p\u00ebrparoj sht\u00ebpin\u00eb, bab\u00ebn e v\u00ebllez\u00ebrit. S\u00b4m\u00eb ka ba p\u00ebrshtypje \u00e7ka m\u00b4del prapa as e kam d\u00ebgju vet\u00ebn. Ver\u00ebe e dim\u00ebr kam \u00a0nejt n\\&#8217;shi e n\\&#8217;bor\u00eb \u00a0se i kem mbajt nga dy-treqind copa dhen, lope e kuaj. Un\u00eb me to bjeshk\u00ebve e dyerve t\u00eb hallkut n\u00eb rrafsh me i dimnu. N\\&#8217;Malaj, n\\&#8217;Leqinat e n\\&#8217;Guri t\\&#8217;Kuq i kem pas konaqet e torishtat, e un\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebllez\u00ebrve \u00a0e me bag\u00ebti. Atyre iu shtrojsha e flinin e un\u00eb rrisha gjith\u00eb nat\u00ebn ulur e ua tersha teshat. Ua bajsha buk\u00ebn mbr\u00ebmje e m\u00ebngjes\\&#8221;, <\/i>thot\u00eb burrnesha Mire Mete Laj\u00e7i, e cila gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn e kaloi n\u00ebp\u00ebr kullosa me bag\u00ebti, e cila ishte puna e saj, dashuria e saj, jeta e saj.<\/p>\n<p>Ndaj, me heqjen e tyre ajo humbi nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb t\u00eb shtrenjt\u00eb t\u00eb bot\u00ebs s\u00eb vet n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn u lind&#8230; <i>\\&#8221;Me at\u00eb rod jemi qe 100 vjet. Ma ka l\u00ebne baba&#8230;Pardje i kam shit t\u00eb mbramat! Kam kajt gjith\u00eb dit\u00ebn e lume, se kam \u00e7u ym\u00ebr me to&#8230;Andej mos m\u00b4prek se jam shum\u00eb e m\u00ebrzitun! E kam pas shenj\u00eb t\u00eb bab\u00ebs&#8230;Jom kone shume e lidhun p\u00ebr to\\&#8221;,<\/i> shton ajo, teksa lot\u00ebt p\u00ebr dhent\u00eb e saj \u00a0bulojne ne sy.<\/p>\n<p><b>Ky fenomen ka tradite te gjate ne trojet shqiptare<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Burrneshat apo virgj\u00ebreshat e p\u00ebrbetuara kan\u00eb nj\u00eb tradit\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb n\u00eb trojet shqiptare, t\u00eb cilat p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb nj\u00eb betimi heqin dor\u00eb nga gjinia e tyre e lindur, por fenomeni \u00a0nuk ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me shtrirjen gjeografike apo pik\u00ebpamjet fetare, thot\u00eb Fazliu, sipas t\u00eb cilit k\u00ebtyre femrave kanuni nuk iu ofron m\u00eb shum\u00eb se ve\u00e7 q\u00ebndrimit n\u00eb oda, pa t\u00eb drejt\u00eb fjale as mendimi. <i>\\&#8221;Ndaj n\u00eb syt\u00eb e sociologeve k\u00ebto femra shihen vet\u00ebm si flijuese, \u00a0meq\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimi i tyre \u00ebsht\u00eb i mjer\u00eb p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb munges\u00ebs s\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdesjes institucionale dhe familjare, p\u00ebr shkak se pjesa d\u00ebrmuese e tyre nuk kan\u00eb v\u00ebllez\u00ebr nd\u00ebrsa n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri nuk ekziston gatishm\u00ebri e madhe q\u00eb t\u00eb merren me raste t\u00eb \u00a0tilla&#8221;.<\/i><\/p>\n<p>Ndaj, \u00a0p\u00ebrkujdesja institucionale p\u00ebr k\u00ebto raste tejet t\u00eb ve\u00e7anta dhe t\u00eb rralla \u00ebsht\u00eb e domosdoshme, qoft\u00eb nga aspekti social apo ai ligjor dhe nj\u00eb iniciativ\u00eb e till\u00eb do duhej t\u00eb vinte kaher\u00eb. Nj\u00eb hap n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb drejtim paralajm\u00ebron sociologu Fazliu me themelimin e nj\u00eb fondi i cili do t\u00b4iu siguronte nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb dinjitetshme. <i>\\&#8221;Un\u00eb heq kapel\u00ebn para flijimit t\u00eb tyre, \u00a0por e kund\u00ebrshtoj hapur nj\u00eb flijim t\u00eb till\u00eb, meq\u00eb ato femra m\u00eb shum\u00eb do t\u00eb kontribuonin me lindjen e dhjet\u00ebra f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. Familjet e k\u00ebtyre vajzave do duhej t\u00eb mendonin \u00a0se ajo krijes\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn nuk e quajn\u00eb madje as \u00a0\\&#8221;burr\u00eb\\&#8221; nuk ka asgj\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt me natyr\u00ebn e burrit. Ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb e brisht\u00eb, e thyeshme, e ndjeshme, e dob\u00ebt n\u00eb pun\u00ebt fizike dhe nuk ka forc\u00ebn e burrit qe t\u00eb b\u00ebhet nj\u00eb luft\u00ebtar\/e i fort\u00eb. Dhe me k\u00ebt\u00eb, ajo mbetet e nd\u00ebshkuar t\u00eb mohoj\u00eb vetveten dhe natyr\u00ebn e saj\\&#8221;.<\/i><\/p>\n<p><b>Mohim I vetvetes deri ne pafundesi<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Ket\u00eb nuk do t\\&#8217;ia preferonte asnj\u00eb femre as burrnesha e Malajve Mire Met\u00eb Laj\u00e7i, se ajo \u00a0\u00ebsht\u00eb d\u00ebshmitare e \u00e7mimit t\u00eb lart\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj sakrifice. &#8220;Kam ndejt un\u00eb boll s\u00b4ka nevoj\u00eb me nejt tjet\u00ebrkush. Le t\u00eb shkojn\u00eb kah t\u00eb don\u00eb . Kam heq keq gjithmon\u00eb. Tash jam plak. Dhente \u00a0i kam shit, ma s\u00b4 pres me i ba kurr\u00eb&#8230;Mir\u00eb e keq qysh ma ka qit. Nuk e kam ndjer\u00eb vet\u00ebn fem\u00ebr kurr\u00eb dhe nuk jam pishman! Tash ve\u00e7 vdekjen e pres&#8230;&#8221;, thot\u00eb p\u00ebr Radio Kosov\u00ebn Virgj\u00ebresha e P\u00ebrbetuar e Malajve, Mire Met\u00eb Laj\u00e7i, e cila \u00ebsht\u00eb nd\u00ebr dy-tri raste n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb e cila \u00ebndrrat vash\u00ebrore ngujoi brenda rrobave te \\&#8221;burrnesh\u00ebs\\&#8221;, p\u00ebr t\u00eb kaluar gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn n\u00eb bjeshk\u00eb e verri duke qen\u00eb \u00e7do gj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, por jo ajo p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn u krijua. N\u00eb em\u00ebr t\u00eb dashuris\u00eb ndaj familjes \u00a0ajo barti gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn nj\u00eb barr\u00eb sa bjeshka mbi supet e saj t\u00eb brishta dhe p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve privoi vetveten nga t\u00eb qenit bashk\u00ebshorte e n\u00ebn\u00eb!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>18 prill 2014,Radio Kosova. Ne fshatin Malaj n\u00eb zem\u00ebr t\u00eb Rugov\u00ebs, nga prind\u00ebrit Vake dhe Met\u00eb Laj\u00e7i para 73 vjet\u00ebsh u lind nj\u00eb vajze e cila me 6 vjetet e saj hoqi dor\u00eb nga gjinia e lindur, duke p\u00ebrforcuar p\u00ebrcaktimin e saj q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb re me betimin e nj\u00eb \u201dvirgj\u00ebreshe t\u00eb p\u00ebrbetuar\u201d e [&hellip;]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":9162,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"default","ast-site-content-layout":"","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"default","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"slim_seo":{"title":"Virgj\u00ebresha e p\u00ebrbetuar e Malajve t\u00eb Rugov\u00ebs - Ajet\u00ebBeqiraj.org","description":"Foto Ben 18 prill 2014,Radio Kosova. 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