{"id":13020,"date":"2012-05-30T22:11:01","date_gmt":"2012-05-30T22:11:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/?p=13020"},"modified":"2026-01-11T22:17:33","modified_gmt":"2026-01-11T22:17:33","slug":"martesat-e-hershme-te-komuniteteve-rae-kur-femijet-lindin-femije","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/en\/martesat-e-hershme-te-komuniteteve-rae-kur-femijet-lindin-femije\/","title":{"rendered":"Nuset e mitura te komuniteteve RAE- Kur femijet lindin femije…"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Gezimi 40 vjecar, gjysh i 7-te niperve e mbesave<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

30 maj 2012, Dojce Vele. <\/b><\/span>Tradita e<\/i><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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Halla Hyra 16 vjec nuse-Nipi Shkelzeni 15 vjec dhender<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

martesave t\u00eb hershme tek komunitetet RAE nuk \u00a0kan\u00eb p\u00ebsuar ndryshime me koh\u00ebn dhe vajzat e tyre martohen-t\u00eb mitura sikurse n\u00ebnat dhe gjyshet e tyre. Martesa e hershme \u00ebsht\u00eb si problem p\u00ebr emancipimin e familjeve RAE\u00a0 poashtu. Nd\u00ebrsa, kur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt lindin f\u00ebmijet, sfidat jan\u00eb t\u00eb vetkuptueshme. <\/i><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Gezimi dhe Sulltanja,egjiptar nga Strellci i Decanit, sapo kan\u00eb kaluar t\u00eb 40-tat, por kan\u00eb 25 vjet martes\u00eb dhe pes\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. Kat\u00ebr prej tyre i kan\u00eb martuar n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 15-16 vjecare, nd\u00ebrsa tashm\u00eb jan\u00eb gjysh\u00ebr t\u00eb 7 nipave dhe mbesave. Edhe ata u fejuan me t\u00b4marr Abetaren dhe bashke me shkronjat e para m\u00ebsuan se t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt kishin marr\u00eb p\u00ebr ta vendimin m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm n\u00eb jet\u00eb. <\/i><\/span><\/div>\n
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\u00a0\u201cJam feju 7 vjec kur s\u00b4kam dit as cka asht fejesa. Disa shok\u00eb bajshin hajgare me mu dhe pse isha i fejuar me shihnin ndryshe. Pasi u mbusha 15 vjet jam martu me dasem e me flamur kombtar shqiptar,sic e kemi tradite. E sot i f alenderoj prinderit e mi qe m\u00b4kane taku me nje familje dhe vajze te ndershme te cilen e kam edhe sot dhe i kam me te 5 f\u00ebmij\u00eb\u201d, thot\u00eb <\/span><\/i>G\u00ebzim Pallulli. <\/span><\/div>\n
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Nga loja me kukulla-Nuse e n\u00ebn\u00eb!<\/span><\/b><\/div>\n
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\u201cM\u00b4kan\u00eb feju 7 vjet e m\u00b4kan\u00eb martu me 15 vjet. E re, por…At\u00ebher\u00eb o kon\u00eb zakon ku t\u00b4jep baba dhe naan t\u00b4 pelqeu e s\u00b4t\u00eb p\u00eblqeu asht dasht\u00eb me e marr. Mua G\u00ebzimi m\u00eb p\u00eblqente, por…Nuk t\u00b4rrej! Dit\u00ebn e par\u00eb-nuse u pata m\u00ebrzit shum\u00eb se erdha prej qyteti n\u00b4katund e mendojsha: \u201cKhu,qysh me ik e me shku n\u00b4shpi?!\u201dMandej u msosva\u00a0 e s\u00b4m\u00eb dukej kund m\u00eb mir\u00eb\u201d, <\/span><\/i>rr\u00ebfen bashk\u00ebshortja \u00a0e G\u00ebzimit,\u00a0 Sulltanja, e cila edhepse ishte shk\u00ebputur nga loja me kukulla p\u00ebr t\u00b4u b\u00ebr\u00eb nuse, vet\u00ebm pas nj\u00eb viti do t\u00eb b\u00ebhet n\u00ebn\u00eb. <\/span><\/div>\n
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\u201cShtatzan\u00eb fill jam mbet. Me 16 vjet ma ka fal Zoti djalin.I kemi pes\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, tri cika e nj\u00eb djal\u00eb i kemi martu. Tash i kam 41 vjet dhe jam gjyshe e kat\u00ebr nipave e tri mbesave\u201d. <\/span><\/i><\/div>\n
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Kur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt lindin f\u00ebmij\u00eb…<\/span><\/b><\/div>\n
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Martesa, si nj\u00eb vendim i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm n\u00eb jet\u00eb, n\u00eb familjet RAE nuk ka p\u00ebsuar ndryshime me kalimin e koh\u00ebs dhe vajzat martohen \u2013t\u00eb mitura, si n\u00ebnat dhe gjyshet e tyre. Dhe kur f\u00ebmija lind f\u00ebmij\u00eb, sfidat t\u00eb cilat do t\u00b4i p\u00ebrcjellin gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn jan\u00eb t\u00eb vetkuptueshme,thot\u00eb p\u00ebr Dojce Vele-n sociologja Vaxhide Sopjani, e cila \u00ebsht\u00eb autore e nj\u00eb hulumtimi n\u00eb bashk\u00ebpunim me organizat\u00ebn \u201cSave the Children\u201d. <\/span><\/div>\n
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\u201cGjat\u00eb hulumtimi ne kemi has edhe nuse 12-13 vjecare dhe rrall\u00ebher\u00eb mbi mosh\u00ebn 18-t\u00eb. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb mosh\u00eb vajza e mitur v\u00ebhet n\u00eb pozit\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb, e pap\u00ebrgatitur p\u00ebr sfidat e bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebsis\u00eb e sidomos t\u00eb shtatz\u00ebnis\u00eb dhe edukimit t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, e cila \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb shp\u00ebrputhje t\u00eb ashp\u00ebr me aft\u00ebsit\u00eb psikofozike t\u00eb vajzave t\u00eb k\u00ebtij komuniteti. Pik\u00ebrisht k\u00ebtu f\u00ebmij\u00ebt lindin f\u00ebmij\u00eb\u00a0 t\u00eb cil\u00ebt s\u00b4jan\u00eb n\u00eb gj\u00ebndje t\u00b4i edukojn\u00eb ashtu sic duhet. Prandaj edhe kemi raste t\u00eb shpeshta t\u00eb<\/span><\/i><\/i><\/p>\n

k\u00ebrkes\u00ebs s\u00eb ndihm\u00ebs mjeksore, qoft\u00eb n\u00eb psikiatri apo problemeve gjenekologjike\u201d<\/span><\/i>, thot\u00eb Sopjani, .<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Se martesat e hershme\u00a0 n\u00eb familjet e komuniteteve RAE jan\u00eb tradit\u00eb e cila vazhdon t\u00eb bartet n\u00ebp\u00ebr breza me fanatiz\u00ebm d\u00ebshmon edhe Hyr\u00eb Rama 68 vjecare, e cila u martua e mitur poashtu. Edhe para pes\u00eb dekadash, mosha\u00a0 dhe m\u00ebnyra e fejes\u00ebs s\u00eb vajzave isht\u00eb e nj\u00ebjt\u00eb si sot. <\/span><\/div>\n
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\u201cJam martu 16 vjet.Burrin e kam pas 15 vjet para vetes. Nuk e kam njoft\u00eb, se nana m\u00b4ka dhan\u00eb. Erdh\u00ebn me m\u00eb marr\u00eb me kali e me pajton. Si nuse kam hjek keq shum\u00eb. N\u00ebp\u00ebr koliba t\u00eb huja,me thupra,flejshim n\u00b4kasht\u00eb e n\u00b4tok\u00eb. U lajshum,her\u00eb me sapun her\u00eb pa ta me pac\u00ebrrk\u00eb.Qysh kemi mujt me e shty. I kam ba gjashte fmij\u00eb. Nuse me 16 vjet ma… \u201c. <\/span><\/i><\/b><\/div>\n
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15 vjec dh\u00ebnd\u00ebr <\/span><\/b><\/div>\n
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Nj\u00ebsoj ndodhi edhe me t\u00eb nipin Shk\u00eblzenin, tash 52 vjecar, i cili m\u00ebngjeseve p\u00ebr n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb zgjohej nga shtrati i martes\u00ebs. Pesh\u00ebn e prangave t\u00eb martes\u00ebs n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri ai do ta ndjej pas pun\u00ebsimit, kur edhepse jeta ofronte raste edhe m\u00eb t\u00eb mira, familja tashm\u00eb ishte aty dhe ai i pafuqish\u00ebm t\u00eb b\u00ebj kthesa.\u00a0 <\/span><\/div>\n
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\u201cM\u00b4kan\u00eb martu 15-t\u00eb vjecar. Po vallahi,jom kone n\u00b4shkolle fillore! Paj,pendimi i gatsh\u00ebm se me 22-25 vjet erdh\u00ebn raste gjithnj\u00eb e ma t\u00b4mira, e u qel\u00ebn syt\u00eb.\u00a0 Si prind\u00ebrit q\u00eb t\u00b4fejojn\u00eb ma…<por, jo,jo,jo. Aty kthes\u00eb s\u00b4ka pas se e merrshe n\u00b4qafe robin e huaj. Tash i kam 7 f\u00ebmij\u00eb dhe jam i lumtur n\u00eb martes\u00eb\u201c,<\/span><\/i> thot\u00eb Shk\u00eblzeni.<\/span><\/div>\n
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Egjiptianwt: “Jo martesa jashtw komunitetit”<\/span><\/b><\/div>\n
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Tradita e martesave t\u00eb hershme dhe t\u00eb aranzhuara te komunitetet RAE, vazhdon. Me k\u00ebt\u00eb zvog\u00eblohet edhe mund\u00ebsia e shkollimit dhe edukimit t\u00eb mir\u00ebfillte t\u00eb brezave t\u00eb rinj. Nd\u00ebrsa\u00a0 arsyet p\u00ebr lidhje martesash mbesin t\u00eb nj\u00ebjta, si dikur. <\/span><\/div>\n
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\u201cP.sh., mahalla e keqe-mashkujt e kqij. Del e ta nguc cik\u00ebn,ndoshta edhe dashurohen e del e ta merr gabelin. Ne gabelit nuk ia japim qik\u00ebn.(Hatri mos t\u00b4mbetet), ne as shqitparit nuk ia japim cik\u00ebn! P\u00ebr qejf as me shqiptar,as me serb, as me rom, as me ashkalij, vec me magjup tan\u00eb. Se nes\u00ebr me u martu nj\u00eb qik\u00eb e\u00a0 jona p\u00ebr rom i thon\u00eb:\u201dMori magjupe. T\u00b4ishe kon\u00eb e mira s\u00b4e kishe marr romin tan\u00eb po ishe martu me kombin t\u00ebnd!\u201d-sqaron Shkelzeni.<\/span><\/i><\/div>\n
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P\u00ebrpjekjet e faktorit vendor, t\u00eb atij nd\u00ebrkombtar dhe shoq\u00ebris\u00eb civile kan\u00eb q\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb shpeshta, \u00a0por jo t\u00eb pand\u00ebrprera. Nd\u00ebrsa, nevojitet angazhim i vazhduesh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00b4i bindur k\u00ebto familje se martesat e hershme nuk iu sjellin asgj\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb nga jeta. P\u00ebrkundrazi! Q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb re do t\u00eb filloj\u00eb ballafaqimi me probleme t\u00eb cilat s\u00b4do t\u00b4ken\u00eb mundesi t\u00b4i tejkalojn\u00eb gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebs, mendon socilogja Sopjani.<\/span><\/div>\n
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\u201cN\u00eb familje thon\u00eb se ne pa i pyetur vajzat asnj\u00ebher\u00eb nuk vendosim me i martu. Dhe, n\u00eb pyetjen se sa jan\u00eb ato t\u00eb afta p\u00ebr t\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegje t\u00eb matur p\u00ebr hapin q\u00eb do t\u00b4i pres n\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn e mituris\u00eb,ata nuk kan\u00eb dit t\u00eb japin p\u00ebrgjegje. Pra, jan\u00eb shkaqet ekonomike, por edhe fakti se ato nana t\u00eb rejabrez pas brezi\u00a0 s\u00b4mund t\u00b4iu flasin vajzave\u00a0 p\u00ebr shkollimin dhe perspektiv\u00ebn por vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr paj\u00ebn dhe martes\u00ebn. D.m.th \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebritje e m\u00ebnyr\u00ebstradicionale t\u00eb\u00a0 jet\u00ebs gjenerate. Prandaj, rekomandimi kryesor i hulumtimit \u00ebsht\u00eb vetdij\u00ebsimi\u201d. <\/span><\/i><\/div>\n
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Filizat e vetdij\u00ebsimit<\/span><\/b><\/div>\n
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Edhe G\u00ebzimi \u00ebsht\u00eb nd\u00ebr ato familje t\u00eb cilat jan\u00eb mbajtur fort pas tradit\u00ebs, duke i martuar f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tij sic vepruan paraardh\u00ebsit n\u00ebp\u00ebr breza; prej 15 deri n\u00eb 17 vjet. <\/span><\/div>\n
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\u201cUn\u00eb i kam ruajt traditat dhe s\u00b4kam pas qejf me m\u00b4shku rrug\u00ebve t\u00b4kqija. Si e kan\u00eb kry shkoll\u00ebn i kam cu te burrat e vet. Asnj\u00ebrin nuk e kam martu pa pyet. T\u00eb tria i kam n\u00eb tri shtete t\u00b4Evrop\u00ebs\u00a0 dhe t\u00eb gjitha e kan\u00eb jet\u00ebn ma t\u00b4mir\u00eb se te un\u00eb\u201d, <\/span><\/i>arsyetohet G\u00ebzimi.<\/b><\/i><\/span><\/div>\n
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E nj\u00ebjta ndodhi edhe me Binakun, djalin e vet\u00ebm t\u00eb kesaj familjeje, i cili u martua n\u00eb moshen 16-t\u00eb vjecare me nusen nje vit m\u00eb t\u00eb re me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn u ka dy f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. Por, po n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb familje tradicionale egjiptase e gjejm\u00eb edhe forc\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb sfiduar fatin, guximin p\u00ebr nj\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb ndryshe dhe t\u00eb ardhme m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb si dhe vet\u00ebdien, q\u00eb duke ruajtur vlerat tradiconale t\u00eb p\u00ebrqafohen ato bashk\u00ebkohore. Kjo shihet n\u00eb Edon\u00ebn, vajz\u00ebn e vog\u00ebl, e cila me vet\u00ebm 13-t\u00eb vjet e di se si gjat\u00eb jet\u00ebs kapen gj\u00ebrat me rend dhe n\u00eb marr\u00ebveshje me prind\u00ebrit n\u00eb familjen e saj do t\u00eb b\u00ebj kthes\u00eb. <\/span><\/div>\n
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\u201cNuk martohem heret n\u00eb asnj\u00eb m\u00ebnyrw. N\u00eb pajtim me prind\u00ebrit do t\u00eb vazhdoj shkollimin. Martesa, pas diplomimit ne fakultet.Kismet!\u201d <\/span><\/i><\/div>\n
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30 maj 2012, Dojce Vele. Tradita e martesave t\u00eb hershme tek komunitetet RAE nuk \u00a0kan\u00eb p\u00ebsuar ndryshime me koh\u00ebn dhe vajzat e tyre martohen-t\u00eb mitura sikurse n\u00ebnat dhe gjyshet e tyre. Martesa e hershme \u00ebsht\u00eb si problem p\u00ebr emancipimin e familjeve RAE\u00a0 poashtu. Nd\u00ebrsa, kur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt lindin f\u00ebmijet, sfidat jan\u00eb t\u00eb vetkuptueshme.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"default","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"set","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":true,"slim_seo":{"title":"Nuset e mitura te komuniteteve RAE- Kur femijet lindin femije... - Ajet\u00ebBeqiraj.org","description":"Gezimi 40 vjecar, gjysh i 7-te niperve e mbesave 30 maj 2012, Dojce Vele. 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