{"id":5726,"date":"2011-11-29T13:30:00","date_gmt":"2011-11-29T13:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/2011\/11\/29\/martesat-kosove-diaspore-ndertim-familjesh-apo-pazare\/"},"modified":"2026-02-07T00:09:06","modified_gmt":"2026-02-07T00:09:06","slug":"martesat-kosove-diaspore-ndertim-familjesh-apo-pazare","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/en\/martesat-kosove-diaspore-ndertim-familjesh-apo-pazare\/","title":{"rendered":"Martesat Kosov\u00eb-diaspor\u00eb jo gjithemone te suksesshme"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>\n<figure id=\"attachment_14094\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-14094\" style=\"width: 282px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-14094\" src=\"https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/11\/Albanische-Junge-Frau-in-Hochzeit.jpg\" alt=\"Albanische Junge Frau in Hochzeit\" width=\"282\" height=\"264\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/11\/Albanische-Junge-Frau-in-Hochzeit.jpg 320w, https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/11\/Albanische-Junge-Frau-in-Hochzeit-13x12.jpg 13w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 282px) 100vw, 282px\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-14094\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Shkendija, storje e suksesshme e marteses Kosove-Diaspore<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><b>29 nentor 2011, Dojce Vele. <\/b>Me ndryshimet politike dhe sociale n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb, martesat Kosov\u00eb-diaspor\u00eb u imponuan si nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr format e organizimit t\u00eb familjes. Por, p\u00ebr shum\u00eb arsye, nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb e konsiderueshme e k\u00ebtyre martesave rezulton me ndarje dhe n\u00eb vend t\u00eb krijimit te falimjes, gjenden n\u00eb rrug\u00eb pa krye. A behen martesa te tilla gjithemone me dashuri dhe pelqim te ndersjelle,apo ka ndonje kalkulim tjeter qe imponon lidhjen e martesave te tilla?<\/div>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Fati i B.L. nga Decani, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb rr\u00ebfim i hidhur se pas tet\u00eb vjet\u00ebsh pritjeje, \u00ebnd\u00ebrra p\u00ebr nj\u00eb martes\u00eb te lumtur me vajz\u00ebn q\u00eb kishte zgjedhur p\u00ebr nuse me banim n\u00eb Shtutgart t\u00eb Gjermanis\u00eb, iu shnd\u00ebrrua n\u00eb nj\u00eb ankth nate. Dhe kshtu, zhg\u00ebnjimi i\u00a0 papritur, shpres\u00ebn p\u00ebr lumturi ia mbyti n\u00eb d\u00ebshp\u00ebrimin e thell\u00eb dhe n\u00eb morin\u00eb e problemeve t\u00eb cilat vazhdojn\u00eb edhe sot e k\u00ebsaj dite&#8230;<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><i>\u201cMe 2003 kam ba kuror\u00eb me t\u00eb fejuar\u00ebn- <\/i>rr\u00ebfen ai p\u00ebr Dojce Vele-n.<i> Shtat\u00eb vjet kam prit n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb derisa m\u00b4asht rregullu q\u00ebndrimi. N\u00eb gusht t\u00eb 2008-t\u00ebs e kam ba dasm\u00ebn q\u00eb m\u00b4ka kushtu me mij\u00ebra euro. Pas k\u00ebsaj edhe atje ia pagova 20 mij\u00eb euro kredi q\u00eb i kish marr p\u00ebr familje, se kur martohet njeriu nuk kqyr me grua. Por, t\u00b4gjitha paskan q\u00ebn\u00eb kot!\u201d<\/i> <b><\/b><\/div>\n<div><b>\u00a0<\/b><\/div>\n<div><b>Zbehja e vleres se institucionit t\u00eb familjes n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb filloi n\u00eb vitet 90-t\u00eb <\/b><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>N\u00eb vitet 90-t\u00eb, me fillimin e ndryshimeve politike dhe sociale n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb ndryshoi edhe forma e organizimit t\u00eb familjes. Thirrjet p\u00ebr sh\u00ebrbim ushtarak, nxjerrja e njer\u00ebzve nga puna, mbyllja e shkollave, rritja e varf\u00ebris\u00eb dhe mungesa e perspektiv\u00ebs ua imponoi djemve largimin n\u00eb shtete tjera, nd\u00ebrsa me mbetjen e vajzave n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb u imponuan martesat n\u00eb larg\u00ebsi. Por, martesat Kosov\u00eb-Diaspor\u00eb jo gjithmon\u00eb rezultuan t\u00eb suksesshme p\u00ebr shum\u00eb arsye, thot\u00eb p\u00ebr Dojce Vele-n Vaxhide Sopjani, sociologe.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_14095\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-14095\" style=\"width: 295px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-14095\" src=\"https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/11\/Xhavit-beqiraj.jpg\" alt=\"Xhavit beqiraj\" width=\"295\" height=\"266\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/11\/Xhavit-beqiraj.jpg 320w, https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/11\/Xhavit-beqiraj-13x12.jpg 13w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 295px) 100vw, 295px\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-14095\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Xhavit Beqiraj &#8211; Krushk i dasmes<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><i>\u201cN\u00eb kushte t\u00eb tilla u imponuan martesat me \u201cmsitni\u201ddhe shum\u00eb t\u00eb reja nga Kosova, p\u00ebrmes familjeve u bashkuan me djem n\u00eb diaspor\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebt m\u00eb heret nuk i njihnin. Sa jan\u00eb funksionale martesa t\u00eb tilla u pa, se nj\u00eb num\u00ebr i madh prej tyre d\u00ebshtuan p\u00ebr faktin se djemt\u00eb n\u00eb per\u00ebndim tashm\u00eb kishin kishin krijuar martesa apo lidhje me joshqitpare, qoft\u00eb edhe vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr rregullimin e statusit. P\u00ebrderisa, arsye kryesore e ndarjeve mbeti mosnjohja paraprake e nj\u00ebri tjetrit, e cila n\u00eb t\u00eb shumt\u00ebn ka rezultuar me ndarjen e menj\u00ebhershme p\u00ebrderisa t\u00eb tjer\u00eb p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb familjes kan\u00eb q\u00ebndruar n\u00eb martes\u00ebn p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb caktuar pa d\u00ebshir\u00ebn e tyre prej nga kan\u00eb lindur edhe f\u00ebmij\u00eb, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt ose jan\u00eb shnd\u00ebrruar n\u00eb nj\u00eb arsye p\u00ebr ruajtjen e martesave t\u00eb tilla n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb dhunshme ose mbet\u00ebn viktima t\u00eb fatit t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb ndar\u00eb. Por, nuk p\u00ebrjashtohen rastet n\u00eb t\u00eb cilat jan\u00eb p\u00eblqyer dhe kan\u00eb funksionuar mir\u00eb\u201d.<b><\/b><\/i><\/div>\n<div><b>\u00a0<\/b><\/div>\n<div><b>Kur \u00ebnd\u00ebrra p\u00ebr familje shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb ankth nate <\/b><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>\n<p>\u00cbsht\u00eb e naytrshme q\u00eb martesat Kosov\u00eb-Diaspor\u00eb p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb rrethanave edhe sot mbeten nj\u00ebra nd\u00ebr m\u00ebnyrat e organizimit t\u00eb familjes. Por, ato n\u00eb t\u00eb shumt\u00ebn jan\u00eb martesa interesi. Si rrjedhoj\u00eb, partneri nga Kosova qoft\u00eb fem\u00ebr apo mashkull, p\u00ebrballet me munges\u00eb respekti, n\u00ebp\u00ebrk\u00ebmbje dinjiteti, tradh\u00ebti bashkeshortore dhe dhun\u00eb t\u00eb vazhdueshme psiqike, qoft\u00eb nga bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt apo familjar\u00ebt e tyre. K\u00ebshtu, pjesa d\u00ebrmuese e tyre d\u00ebshtojn\u00eb nd\u00ebrsa t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb e ardhur nga Kosova gjenden n\u00eb rrug\u00eb pa krye e jo rrall\u00eb, p\u00ebrfundojn\u00eb tragjikisht. P\u00ebrderisa fatkeq\u00ebsit\u00eb b\u00ebhen pjes\u00eb e p\u00ebrditshm\u00ebris\u00eb.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div><i>\u201cPas tri dit\u00ebve nusen teme e kam gjet me gjerman. E kam thirr migjen e saj se e kemi dh\u00ebnd\u00ebr. Ai m\u00b4tha:\u201dAmaneti i Zotit mos na ban kahre!\u201d M\u00b4ka thirr v\u00ebllai i saj n \u00b4telefon kah jam ardh\u00eb prej pune n\u00eb 23, tuj m\u00b4sha me fjal\u00eb t\u00eb kqija sa s\u00b4kam pa me sy e i kam mshu nj\u00eb kerri para meje. E ma s\u00b4mrami m\u00b4i prishen letrat e m\u00b4prun\u00eb n\u00b4shpi&#8230;Jon\u00eb shku e i kane lajmru policin\u00eb gjoja si un\u00eb po e k\u00ebrc\u00ebnoj e po ushtroj dhun\u00eb e terror, q\u00eb s\u00b4jan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrteta hiq por vec shpifje e propagand\u00eb vec me m\u00b4largu nga Gjermania!\u201d<\/i><b><\/b><\/div>\n<div><b>\u00a0<\/b><\/div>\n<div><b>P\u00ebrplasje kulture e mentaliteti<\/b><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Dhe, d\u00ebshtimet e martesave Kosov\u00eb-Diaspor\u00eb, vazhdojn\u00eb edhe pas hapjes se kufijve dhe mund\u00ebsis\u00eb p\u00ebr takimin dhe njohjen m\u00eb t\u00eb thell\u00eb t\u00eb qifteve. Por, pamja e \u00a0jashtme e<br \/>\npartnerit n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb dhe statusi i personit ne diaspor\u00eb si faktor vendimtar p\u00ebr lidhjen e fejes\u00ebs, sikur determinojn\u00eb q\u00eb nga fillimi kahjen e martesave t\u00eb tilla, p\u00ebrderisa p\u00ebr dashuri pak mund t\u00eb fliet. Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb rritja dhe edukimi n\u00eb frym\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshme, sjell deri te p\u00ebrplasjet e paevitueshme t\u00eb kultur\u00ebs dhe mentalitetit, thot\u00eb z.Sopjani.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_14096\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-14096\" style=\"width: 339px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-14096\" src=\"https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/11\/Albanische-Hochzeit-Atmosphere-.jpg\" alt=\"Albanische Hochzeit Atmosphere\" width=\"339\" height=\"221\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/11\/Albanische-Hochzeit-Atmosphere-.jpg 320w, https:\/\/ajetebeqiraj.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/11\/Albanische-Hochzeit-Atmosphere--18x12.jpg 18w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 339px) 100vw, 339px\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-14096\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Ardhja e nuses me krushq ne dasmen shqiptare<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<div><i>\u00a0<\/i><\/div>\n<div><i>\u201cDisa vajza tonat me t\u00eb dal\u00eb n\u00eb diaspor\u00eb mendojn\u00eb se do t\u00eb ken\u00eb liri n\u00eb cdo gj\u00eb. Por, br\u00ebnda disa familjeve shqiptare n\u00eb per\u00ebndim ruhet tradita me shum\u00eb fanatiz\u00ebm dhe n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb aspekt mund t\u00eb lindin edhe konfliktet. E nj\u00ebjta ndodh edhe n\u00eb rastet kur nj\u00eb djal\u00eb apo vajz\u00eb e edukuar mir\u00eb nga Kosova martohet me nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb apo djal\u00ebne diaspor\u00eb i cili ka harruar kultur\u00ebn dhe tradit\u00ebn e vendit t\u00eb tij\u201d. <\/i><\/div>\n<div><b><\/b><br \/>\n<b><\/b><\/div>\n<div><b>Martesat Kosov\u00eb-Diaspor\u00eb jo gjithmon\u00eb \u201cpazar\u201d i mir\u00eb<\/b><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>P\u00ebrderisa nga p\u00ebrjetimet q\u00eb diktojn\u00eb k\u00ebto martesa, thirrje d\u00ebshp\u00ebrimi si e k\u00ebtij t\u00eb riu dalin natyrsh\u00ebm.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><i>\u201cVec m\u00eb mor\u00ebn n\u00eb qaf\u00eb&#8230;Prita shtat\u00eb vjet e n\u00b4fund kurrgja hic! Ju kisha ba apel krejt rinis\u00eb n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb mos t\u00b4mashtrohen me marr femra jasht\u00eb shtetit se t\u00eb rralla jan\u00eb ato q\u00eb iu bajn\u00eb rehat! Dy vjet m\u00b4ka ra me nejt e i kam pa tetana&#8230;A don me ta thon\u00eb t\u00b4v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn a don me t\u00b4rrejt?!\\&#8221;<\/i><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Sido q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb, p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb papun\u00ebsis\u00eb, gj\u00ebndjes s\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb ekonomike dhe munges\u00ebs s\u00eb perspektiv\u00ebs n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb, martesat me\u00a0diaspor\u00ebn konsiderohen si nj\u00eb \u201cPazar\u201d i mir\u00eb, cfar\u00eb con n\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrzgjedhje t\u00eb pabarabart\u00eb dhe jo gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundim fatlum. Se, edhepse partneri nga diaspora gjithmon\u00eb ka letrat e mira n\u00eb dor\u00eb, jo rralle edhe ata bine pre e josinqeritetit t\u00eb partner\u00ebve nga Kosova, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt pas rregullimit t\u00eb statusit n\u00eb shtetet p\u00ebrkat\u00ebse i braktisin p\u00ebr t\u00eb t\u00ebrhequr pas vetes partner\u00ebt e v\u00ebrtet.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Sipas Entit t\u00eb Statistikave t\u00eb Kosov\u00ebs, vet\u00ebm gjate vitit 2010 n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb jan\u00eb shkruror\u00ebzuar 1,453 qifte, 60 prej t\u00eb cilave nga martesat Kosov\u00eb-Diaspor\u00eb.<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>29 nentor 2011, Dojce Vele. Me ndryshimet politike dhe sociale n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb, martesat Kosov\u00eb-diaspor\u00eb u imponuan si nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr format e organizimit t\u00eb familjes. Por, p\u00ebr shum\u00eb arsye, nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb e konsiderueshme e k\u00ebtyre martesave rezulton me ndarje dhe n\u00eb vend t\u00eb krijimit te falimjes, gjenden n\u00eb rrug\u00eb pa krye. A behen martesa te tilla [&hellip;]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"default","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"set","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"slim_seo":{"title":"Martesat Kosov\u00eb-diaspor\u00eb pelqim i ndersjelle apo kalkulim interesash","description":"Shkendija, storje e suksesshme e marteses Kosove-Diaspore 29 nentor 2011, Dojce Vele. 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